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Re-posted in part from THINKLikeaBLACKBELT.org…

By Jim Bouchard

It’s simple, albeit not easy, to raise confident kids.

  • Choose your words carefully
  • Be a good example
  • Encourage
  • Provide challenging opportunities for growth
  • Support them in success and failure

Young Couple with Two Children (8-12) Walking on the BeachI’ve been working with kids for nearly 30 years and I can tell you that if you do those 5 things, your kid has a pretty good chance of growing into a confident and competent adult.

As I said; it’s simple, not easy!

It’s not easy particularly because you can do permanent damage to a child’s self-confidence if you’re not careful of the words you use and the example you provide.

Here are 8 things you must NEVER do if you want to raise confident kids…


Jim Bouchard is the founder of Northern Chi Martial Arts Centers and Master Instructor in Residence at our Brunswick, Maine Center.

Through martial arts, Jim Bouchard transformed himself from dropout, drug abuser and failure to successful entrepreneur and Black Belt. As a speaker and author of Amazon bestseller Think Like a Black Belt, Jim tours nationally presenting his philosophy of Black Belt Mindset for corporate and conference audiences. He’s a regular guest on TV and radio programs including FOX News, BBC Worldview and FOX Across America.

Learn more about Jim at JimBouchard.org and THINKLikeaBLACKBELT.org!

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Christmas GirlThe greatest gift you can give your children this Christmas is…


A recent study by the University of Pennsylvania concluded that self-discipline and a well developed sense of personal responsibility are the strongest indicators of good school performance and later success in life.

This study clearly validates what martial arts masters have been teaching for more than 2,000 years! If you want to be happy, productive and successful…practice learn and practice discipline!

And it’s never to late to learn!

One of my most requested topics when speaking for business audiences is discipline. The most successful people in life and business are those who never stop learning, growing and developing. There is no limit to one’s personal and professional growth.

The successful people I admire, study and model realize that discipline is a practice that needs constant attention. There is no point where you say, “OK, I’ve got it…” and that’s the end. Discipline is a practice…a never-ending practice.

Human beings are, in fact, creatures of habit. Discipline is an intentional habit- a habit you select. A habit that helps you get where you want to go.

Left without guidance, kids are extremely susceptible to negative habits…for that matter, adults are too! The more attention you give to developing discipline in your children, the better their chances for success and happiness now, and in the future.

I don’t know how you’re going to wrap it…but the most valuable gift you could put under the tree for your kids this year is…


Merry Christmas from everyone at Northern Chi!!!

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Here is a Special Post from Master Jim’s THINK Like a BLACK BELT blog on how best to help your children cope with the school shootings in Connecticut today…



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The next time your kids don’t want to practice…show them this story!

Personally, I would have made her a Black Belt…she already has more courage than most!


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Watch this video from FOX News and listen carefully to what the law enforcement officer is saying…

Child predators are clever and often subtle. We make it our business to understand their tactics and techniques. We teach your children how to avoid this situation and what to do if they find themselves in it. Here are some of the important tactics your child will learn at the Black Belt Mindset Institute at Northern Chi Martial Arts Center:

  • Do not talk with adult you don’t know without your parents present
  • Do not go anywhere with anyone you don’t know
  • Nobody has the right to put their hands on you…NOBODY
  • If someone strange is trying to get you to do anything, go find help

Once a child is grabbed by an adult attacker, that child is at an extreme disadvantage. We teach awareness and avoidance first. It’s irresponsible to teach that a child can defeat a much larger assailant; on the other hand we teach simple, intuitive fighting responses that can greatly improve a child’s chances of surviving and escaping an assault.

  • We teach them to kick, punch, bite and scratch an attacker
  • We teach them how to yell for help
  • We teach them where to run for help

We don’t teach children that they should “Never talk to strangers.” Why don’t we? Every new friend they will ever have starts out as a stranger. We don’t want to make kids paranoid, we want to make them aware. Instead, we teach them never to talk to strangers without their parents. We teach them that no adult has the right to approach a young person alone.

Nobody wants to thing about a child being abducted or assaulted. However, ignoring the potential does not make the threat go away. It’s our business to think about that possibility and to give your children the information and training that will give them the best chance of survival should the worst ever happen.

Don’t let your children go out into the world alone…until you bring them to us!

Download your FREE “Stranger Do’s and Don’ts” poster here!

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At the Black Belt Mindset Institute at Northern Chi Martial Arts Center, we have a realistic approach to children’s self-defense. They may think they can outfight an adult assailant; after all, that’s what they see on TV.

We teach kids that an adult has an overwhelming advantage in a violent attack. We teach them three simple rules:

  • Run!
  • If you can’t run…punch, kick, bite and…
  • SCREAM!!!

A 40 to 80 pound child cannot outfight an average adult. However, if they’re trained to stay alert, they’re much less likely to get into trouble. If they know some basic fighting tactics, they make the attackers job a lot more difficult, will attract attention and may even discourage the attack altogether. If they train to scream and yell for help, they become the attacker’s worst nightmare.

Guess which tactic saved the life of these two children in Philadelphia…

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By Jim Bouchard

From TakePart.com…

“A Florida high school student made a stand against bullying and is now in the hot seat with school officials. For months, 18-year-old Stormy Rich witnessed a girl with special needs being bullied by her peers on the way to school. “They would be mean to her, tell her she couldn’t sit on certain spots on the bus…just because she doesn’t understand doesn’t mean that should be happening to her,” Rich told WOFL-TV.”

Hero, or just another round of bullying? Was she right to stand up and stop the abuse, or do you believe that two wrongs don’t make a right?

I say Stormy is a hero. She acted with moral and physical courage to stand up for that other student. Since when is telling someone who is perpetrating an act of agression to stand down considered bullying as well?

The world in this school district has definitely shifted off-access. More from the TakePart.com article:

“Rich says she reported the incidents to the bus driver and school officials. When they didn’t take action, she stepped in and confronted the bullies; but instead of being praised for her efforts, Rich ended up being labeled as a bully, and her bus-riding privileges were revoked. A spokesperson for the school district said, “Two wrongs don’t make a right” and that the girl with special needs never complained about being bullied.”

Even if Stormy was forceful and aggressive in her own right, responding to an act of violence with aggression is not an act of violence. Since bullying involves a disparity of power, there is no way that Stormy, acting alone against several other students, could be considered to be abusing a disparity of power and therefore she cannot be considered a bully.

As for the school’s assertions that the special needs child never complained about the bullying, that is simply the worst justification for their actions imaginable. Granted- it’s difficult to handle abuse when none is reported by the target. However, it is all too typical in these scenarios that the target will not report the incident or speak out against the perpetrators. The target may feel that doing so simply makes the situation worse, particularly when no action is taken against the bullies. She may also have feared retribution from her tormentors.

No matter- Stormy reported the incidents…several of them. The school chose inaction; she chose action.

It is not right to stand by and watch others abused and bullied at school, in the workplace or in the community. It’s not always appropriate to intervene physically, and it’s not generally your obligation to do so. At the very least you should report the incident. I just did a post on the THINK Like a BLACK BELT blog contrasting an act of courage in the recent Seattle coffee shop shooting with an act of brazen cowardice as a man recorded video of an assault on a Philadelphia police officer. He recorded his video on a phone he should have been using to dial 9-1-1. (Read the post “Courage vs. Cowardice” here.)

Too many people sit on the sidelines instead of confronting aggression, bullying and abuse. Too many parents train their kids not to get involved.

Stormy Rich is a hero.

Read the entire post by Jennie Inglee on TakePart.com here…

What do you think? Was Stormy a hero or did she just add to the cycle of bullying? Add your comments…

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